Yesterday we remembered the events of September 11, 2001.
For me, 9/11 is as much about healing as it is a remembrance. Back then, I was staying with my mom who was terminally ill, although I had a home two hours away with my husband. My sister worked in a daycare and I was subbing for her that day. We didn’t have televisions in the building, but as information started to trickle in, we became glued to the radio and any information we could get. Not knowing how widespread the attacks might be, parents started picking up their children, desperate to hold them close.
Except for those early moments, the day was a blur. I don’t remember going home from work that evening. Or what I did in the days following. The Friday after, I went back to my home for the weekend to be with my husband. We had dinner with friends and it was completely surreal to do something so mundane when my mom was dying and bodies were being pulled from the rubble in New York.
And then I went back to my mom’s and continued on like everything was normal. Except that it wasn’t. At all. The world as we all knew it had changed, and my personal world was changing too. Five months later, on February 9, 2002, my mom passed away. I was 27.
In these fifteen years since September 11 2001, I don’t feel that much collective healing has occurred. There is still so much anger and mistrust, both at home and abroad. People are still hurting, possibly more than even immediately after that fateful day, but with new and different enemies.
Until a few years ago, I was still hurting too. It’s difficult to put into words how living through a world disaster and a personal crisis at the same time affects you, likely because you just go numb. You have little choice, given the magnitude of everything going on around you, out of your control. Yet at some point, you have to face the music – the numb wears off eventually.
I took me nearly 14 years to even address the loss of my mom. And it’s been a slow and ongoing process. Just like it’s taking the world many years to address the multiple losses and atrocities it experiences on a daily basis. I never saw this as a parallel until I started to do my own healing and realized one very important truth: When I heal me, I open the door for others to heal. One person at a time. One healing at a time.
I didn’t do my work for anyone else but myself. However, in doing the work, I’ve freed up a space in me that was previously plugged with numbness and pain. In clearing that, I’ve opened up a part of me that now has the strength and the room to hold space for other people’s pain. And in time, they will be able to do the same for others. And so it goes on down the line. The more we open to healing ourselves as individuals, the more we hold space for humanity as a whole to do the same. One person at a time. One healing at a time.
If you’ve been thinking about your own need for healing or you’re curious about what steps I took in my own healing process, you’re reading this message at the right time. My program, Simple Self Healing: 5 Techniques to Balance Your Chakras, Strengthen Your Boundaries, and Enhance Your Self Care Practice, starts October 9. In this experiential program, I’ll teach you about what healing is and how it can enhance your life. The program includes a variety of tools to help you relieve stress and pain, support yourself through difficult times, enhance your spiritual connection, and promote your body’s ability to heal naturally. Healing one person at a time. One person – YOU!
Week 1 – Introduction to Healing and Basic Pain Techniques
Week 2 – Chakra Assessment and Energetic Boundaries
Week 3 – Energetics of Food and Reiki 101
Week 4 – Usui Reiki Level 1 Attunement & Essential Hand Positions
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Are you ready to walk through the door to healing? I invite you to go deeper, and ask yourself what you need at this time. And if you find healing is what you need, I’d love to support you on that journey.
Hope to hear from you soon!
Love & light,